Three Ladies & Love

There are only three ladies in my office, including me.
(somehow I feel funny to call myself lady, feel so old. But I can't call myself a girl either, sounds too young. I wonder what's in between a girl and a lady)
Anyway, back to my main point, three of us have very different love story to tell.

First lady, let's call her Chem.
Start with her as she's the oldest among us. She's around mid 30s.
She has been married for the past 9 years and she has 2 young kids.
She looks alright in office but I just found out that she's actually going through a tough time right now.
Struggling whether she should file for divorce with her husband.
Even though they are married for 9 years but for the past 6 years her husband has been away, they have not been staying together.
Her husband's priority in life is always work and study. She feels that she is always last in his life.
She loves him but she's hurt that he is always away and leave her to do everything on her own.
She's giving him one last chance til June to come back to the family.

What is love for her?
Love is bitter when it is one-sided.
Love is a struggle to survive without the physical presence of the other party.
Love is longing to be loved back.
Love is awaiting a return of appreciation and affection.

Second lady, let's call her Ja.
She just hit 30 this year.
She's still single but attached.
She always talk about she still wants to get married so don't want to die so young.
So I was curious and asked her why don't she get married with her boyfriend.
She admitted he is a married man.
But in her religion they are allowed to marry more than one.
His wife knows about her and do not have very negative response.
So what stops her is her parents.
According to her, no parents want their daughter to be second wife.
And her logic or justification is "Even if you are with a single guy, they can also still look for second woman, so what?"

What is love for her?
Love is selfish.
Love is you do what you want and what you feel like doing.
Love is to satisfy your needs or lusts.
Love is a temporal thing and see how long it can lasts.

Third lady, the youngest among the three, let's call her Amy. Hehe...
She is in her late 20s. Just married less than 2 years ago and is now expecting.
She has a husband who loves her a lot.
The longest time when the husband is away from her was during the Youth camp last Dec for 4 days 3 nights.
Even though they do have their ups and downs but they have never sleep angry with each other or leave the house knowing they are angry with each other.
She has the assurance that her husband will be there for her, support her and love her.
The word divorce is not in their dictionary. They are ready to work hard and put in as much effort to make the relationship works and to have a wonderful family together.
They want to grow old together.

What is love for her?
Love is about commitment and responsibility.
Love is to trust each other knowing that they are to be LIFE partner.
Love is to continuously show affection and letting the other party knows how much they love each other.
Love is to support and be there for one another.

Why is the difference?
We love because God first loved us.
We share the same faith, experiencing the same love from God.
We have the same definition of love as shown in the bible.
I cannot imagine life without God.
Just like how people always think I m so naive to believe true and everlasting love exists.
That is because they have not experienced the true and everlasting love from God yet. :-)

Baby at week 33

It seems to be such along journey at first, but now it's down to 7 more weeks to go.
Sometimes I ask myself this question :" Am I ready?"
Well, I guess you will never be ready enough to be ready.
I just have to go with it and grow along the way.
Good thing is I know I can always look up and call on to our Almighty God for strength and mercy.
Of course, I am also blessed with a wonderful husband who has been as supportive as he can.

I know our life will not be the same anymore but I also know it will just become better.
Baby is the gift of God and even though he has not been out yet, he has brought much joy.
Experiencing his strong kicks in my tummy, being able to see his movements with our eyes, all these are just sign of blessing and joy.

Somehow I can't wait for the baby to be out, we are just excited about his arrival but I know I'm going to miss him staying in my tummy when he's out.